CAPSULE WARDROBE

Capsule Wardrobe Night (1)

Capsule Wardrobe night will be LIVE on this facebook page for those who can’t attend in person! STAY TUNED! 7PM Wednesday, April 25th. We have maybe 3 more spaces for in person, so for $5, you get to see some amazing articles, ask questions, and join in on the clothing swap. If you are a part of the LIVE you have a chance to win a door prize!

who is joining us!?

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Union Swimwear Giveaway!

We are excited to team up with Union Swimwear, put a spotlight on this great bathing suit company locally to Vancouver and shares the same heart we have for being socially conscious and living purposefully.  here are some of their answers to the why’s and who they are! check it out and see the giveaway at the bottom!

What do you do? 

  • Professional Accountant by day, swimsuit aficionado by night, I’m a Vancouver local hoping to inspire others in their careers.  I obtained her Business Degree in 2007 and started her professional accounting career at a large international accounting firm (PricewaterhouseCoopers) downtown Vancouver.  In 2009, I managed to obtain her Master’s degree in Accounting from the University of Saskatchewan and successfully pass the Chartered Accountant’s exam that fall.  In 2010, I accepted a work opportunity in Melbourne, Australia where she spent two and a half years auditing large-scale public mining companies for PricewaterhouseCoopers Melbourne.  2015 was an exciting year when I got the opportunity to work in lululemon’s finance department as the Manager of Financial Reporting.  These days, I live my life outside the box (or outside the office) working full-time from home for TELUS’s finance department.  The lack of commute and efficiency in her day-to-day allows me to pursue all the side hustles, from real estate to financial consulting to starting a Swimwear company!

 What is something you are motivated by?

  • I am a big believer in the concept of Kaizen.  It’s the Japanese word for improvement or change for better.  It’s all about continuous improvement and is a long-term approach to work that systematically seeks to achieve small, incremental changes in processes in order to improve efficiency and quality.  If I can improve my life, my work, my habits, my friendships by a small amount each and every day – I truly believe this will make a lasting impact on the world.
  • I also think a lot about my legacy – what are people going to remember me by when I’m gone.  This is where UNION swimwear comes into play.  UNION Swimwear is socially responsible and the reversible one-piece swimsuits are cute AF.  A portion of our profits is donated to HOPE International Development Agency (HOPE International) – specifically to provide clean water to communities in need. HOPE International exists to improve the supply of basic human necessities for the neediest of the developing world through self-help activities and to challenge, educate, and involve North Americans regarding development issues.  UNION Swimwear has recently donated enough to purchase our first well in Cambodia. You can look at the coordinates here.

 Something that you want to inspire others with, 

  • I am a huge fan of Tony Robbins, Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, etc.  I’d like to pass the inspiration that I’ve gotten from these role models to everyone.  My favorite quotes/teachings from each:
  • Tony Robbins: Trade your expectations for appreciation and your whole world changes in an instant.
  • Wayne Dyer: If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
  • Louise Hay: Create a practice of daily affirmations.  I have an app called think up where I’ve recorded positive affirmations.  You choose background music and I play these affirmations while I’m getting ready in the morning or when I’m working.

Why did you say yes to being interviewed?

  • I love meeting new people, experiencing new things, and creating new connections.  I got a great vibe from Carla.  I’m all about good vibes.

What is your side hustle? Brand rep? Hobby?

  • I have a few:
    • As mentioned in #3 under passions – UNION Swimwear my newest side hustle.
    • I do financial consulting on the side for small publically traded companies that don’t have in-house accounting departments.  I prepare the financial statements and MD&A’s that are listed quarterly on the TSX for a few companies at the moment.  I would love to get into more consulting involving start-ups and small businesses.
    • I also own a few properties that I rent out currently.  I’d like to get more into the air bnb space or corporate rentals with my place downtown this summer.
    • I also love the endorphins and serotonin that I get from working out. I work out 6 times a week (2 times with a trainer).
    • I have a love for cooking/baking!  On Sundays, I try to meal prep for the week – do a big grocery shop and make all my breakfasts and lunches so that I don’t make bad decisions during the week.

what is something you appreciate about Feather & Mane

  • What I’ve learned over the past 10 or so years since starting my professional career as an accountant – nothing else matters than the people you surround yourself with and the relationships you make.  So the people of feather and mane is the one thing I appreciate most.  Carla was so amazing when we first connected – figuring out how we can help each other.  Putting her hand up for UNION ask I was putting out through Vancity Business Babes – takes a lot of courage and I truly appreciate it.  Also, the event they’re hosting next weekend on Living with Purpose – I respect and appreciate anyone that’s trying to make a positive impact in their community.

GIVEAWAY!! CLOSED WINNER WAS KIRSTEN CAMPBELL 

  Let’s do a suit giveaway!  Follow @union.swimwear  and Feather & Mane + tag a friend and let us know how you’re living with purpose?  

Places you can find this giveaway!

THANKS FOR JOINING US!

CONTEST RULES

this is a private contest endorsed by Union Swimwear and Feather & Mane. Must be Canadian Resident, in order to win you must be following at least one of our handles (both feather and mane and union swimwear), comment on a platform, and like the post. extra entries for sharing and commenting on multiple union swimwear and feather & mane platforms. the contest will run from  Friday, April 20th- Monday  April 24th 9PM. Winner will be announced on Tuesday, April 25th.

Good Luck!

Feather & Mane

5 Ways to Build Up the Mom of a Tantruming Toddler

Compassion Vs Show Down

My dad has had a great impact on my parenting. He is a wealth of knowledge. Some advice comes from real life experience, and I am pretty sure, some are just plain old made up. I know, all of it comes from his heart. He once told me that it isn’t until you have children and your friends have children, that you realize who your true friends are. The people who you knew post-children are very different than the ones you know now. Children bring out the best and worst in us. They also cause us to have to make real decisions that impact how we see the world and how we live out our lives. Decisions such as co-sleeping and breastfeeding in the early years and in the later years we have to decide between public and private school as well as everything in between. How do we, as parents, respond to sass from our children? How are we going to teach our children about respect for elders or the importance of apologizing? What about topics like spanking? or hot topics such as immunization and circumcision?

There are so many topics and decisions that come up in parenting that can cause a divide in friendships. How do we navigate our adult relationships while doing our best not to compromise our own parenting choices and decisions?

Living in a world with so many different people in it, we are sure to interact with people we do not agree with, every single day. As I am raising my children I find myself often telling them that they need to be kind and gentle with the little ones that cross their paths. I am often correcting behavior that is causing my children to come across as unsympathetic or aggressive. Am I doing the same for myself? How am I coming across to those around me? The best way to show our children the proper behavior is to model it ourselves. Am I being kind? Am I being gentle?

We are in this together. Parenthood is a community. The largest community out there. People all over the world are raising the next generation and parenting has no language or cultural barriers. We are all thrown into the trenches as soon as that baby is placed in our arms. There is no getting away from it. So, why are we adding to the battle instead of supporting each other?

Here are a few things to keep in mind when interacting with either a lifelong mommy friend or a new mommy friend:

  1. BE KIND – Motherhood is hard and when we aren’t battling the evil glares of strangers as their eyes, nose, and mouth show us their judgment on how we are parenting our child who is currently throwing a tantrum. We do not need to also be self-conscious of our fellow “trench dwellers”. Offer to watch that mom’s shopping cart while she does what she needs to do to gain control of her wild child. Be a safe place for that mom as she handles this awkward situation. Write a kind note about how you saw her doing her best and leave it on her car or hand it to her in person. We all need kindness. There are enough people out there judging. How about we make it normal for people to show kindness rather than attitude. Let’s be honest, next time it could be YOU with the full shopping cart and the toddler screaming at the top of her lungs. Invest in the crazy moments and throw kindness around like confetti.london-scout-41029-unsplash
  2. ASSUME THEY WANT THE BEST FOR THEIR CHILD – This one is sometimes hard to apply. We see a mom yelling at their 2-year-old son for picking something off the shelf in the store and it seems like she is overreacting. I mean, it was only one little thing. NO need to scream and cause a scene. What we don’t know is how often she has had to say it or what else had transpired that morning between them. We often are condemned just on the small glimpses people see into our relationship with our children. Before we decide that we have found the “worlds worst mom and should probably call child services, thank goodness I was there.” Let’s assume better. Take some time and observe some more interactions that they have. If their entire shopping trip is cause for concern then maybe you should be concerned. But if it is just one interaction than I am pretty sure she is just a mom. A mom like you.                                                                                                                                                                     There are areas that we may also need to apply this attitude. When a mom makes a decision for her child that is the opposite of what you would do, we should assume the position of Support and educate ourselves as to why she has decided to make that choice. Only the stories of the parent’s making epic fails of choices for their children make the news. What about those moms and dads who make daily decisions that affect their children for the rest of their lives and don’t make the news. These days we don’t only have to be afraid of a stranger stealing our children, now we also have to be afraid of a stranger seeing us parent in our worst moment and reporting us to the authorities. Here is my take on what we should do. If you see a parent who is struggling to be kind to their child, be their friend. Introduce yourself and be brave enough to confront them like a fellow human than a faceless enemy. Tattle tailing is always the worst when it comes from a stranger.jordan-whitt-145327-unsplash
  3. AVOID TOPICS AND FIND COMMON GROUND – When I meet a new mom friend it always feels like a first date. Will this new friend like me? Will she agree with how I parent? Will my kid bite her kid? Or is that last one just me? It can be nerve-wracking and exhilaration meeting a new friend. Finding your common ground can come just by asking a series of questions. This questionnaire can also bring up areas of contention. The spotlight can often get stuck on the topics that you disagree on. Depending on the friend or situation this topic may come up often and be hard to avoid. But in most situations, your friendship can continue with ease, just by avoiding this topic. You can come to a mutual agreement to just leave that topic out of your friendship. This is such a great tool to model for our children. Such topics like Santa. If your child has already found out the truth, we don’t want our kids to be “that kid” who spills the beans, so we teach them to keep the secret and avoid that topic with their friend who would have their soul crushed if they ever found out the truth. Let’s apply the same topic to our lives.
  4. CELEBRATE AND STOP ONE-UPPING – How frustrating is it when you are sharing with your friends a proud mommy moment and they quickly come up with a better story about their child which makes your child’s accomplishment look like a minor deal. I am guilty of this one. We are so proud of our children and some children can do amazing things and some children are just amazing in their own way. I felt this way in kindergarten with my sweet boy. Last year, he could have cared less about reading. I know that reading is not expected from a child in kindergarten but I felt like I was failing him when I would share his minor “alphabet ” accomplishments with my fellow mama friends. Their children seemed to be reading with ease and I was sharing how proud I was of my son being able to recall that “A says Ah”. I am not innocent in this “Child Olympics” as I have been guilty of bragging about my 11-month-old walking and my 18 month old being able to sing a song all on her own. My son was riding a 2 wheeler at the age of 2 years and 11 months. I remember being sooooo proud of his amazing accomplishment. I was not gracious about sharing this information with the world. You better believe you can find the recording of boasting all in my Instagram history. Video and all. I am not saying that we should stop sharing our children’s triumphs and victory’s but we should remember that that isn’t what life is all about. We shouldn’t be thinking up an equal or better accomplishment done by our child in response to a friends story. We should listen. Celebrate and let them have that moment. Your moment will come. It doesn’t always need to be at the same time. Also, it is your child’s moment. They are our children, but, it is THEIR moment, NOT ours! All I can say is, I am so thankful my mom didn’t have Instagram when I was a kid.DSC_2299
  5. BE BRAVE AND BUILD BOUNDARIES – This one had me thinking. With all that I have said before this, I don’t want to leave without saying that we should be brave enough to set boundaries in our relationships. Not everyone will have the same mindset on parenting as we do. Not everyone will agree with what we do or how we spend our time. So, set boundaries in a respectful way. I find this is the hardest the earlier on in parenting that you are. This is something that develops over time and is done after a lot of trial and error. I remember the early days of motherhood when it was just me and my newborn son at home and the visitors were still flooding in. My husband was back at work and I was there to fend for myself. I got advice from everyone I saw and most of it was harmless. BUT some of it was harmful. Some of it shaped my mind and didn’t allow me to feel free to parent as I wanted to. I lost a lot of precious moments with my son trying to please other people. I wanted him to sleep on his own and I was only doing it because other people told me I should. I would have been way happier if I had let that happen on my own time.  I would have been happier if I had bottle fed him. I would have been happier if I had not been so stressed about nap times and bedtimes in those early months of parenthood. I didn’t know any of this until I had baby number two. That is when I realized how much more enjoyable life is when you are doing what is best for your family and not what is best for everyone else, in order for them to stop judging you. Baby number two got a much braver mama than baby number 1. This is not something I regret, it was a great learning experience, but is something I wanted to share. Be A BRAVE mama!!! On that note. Bravery doesn’t have to be accomplished on your own. Surround yourself with people who allow you to “Build up your Brave”. Find your safe place to grow and GROW!

 

Parenthood is a strange-hood to be in. No one has the same story and no one has the same struggles. We are all dealing with different combinations of personalities and behaviors and circumstances. The one thing we have in common is that we are raising the next generation.  What we do and how we react to our fellow earth dwellers is seen by those little eyes. We all know that children have selective hearing, but their eyes never lie. Their eyes see it all. Modeling behavior worth repeating can be hard, but it can also be world changing.

 

-Jessica

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Maan Farms Country Experience

 

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We had the privilege of joining Maan farms this past Easter weekend in a delightful crepe breakfast and a tour of all the fun spaces this country experience had in store.

If you are looking for a great Abbotsford local item that you can get a VERY reasonable yearly membership to, I would highly recommend Maan Farms.

Maan Farms has a corn maze, an air jumper pillow, a peddle kart track, zip line, petting zoo, delicious raspberry wine, and during berry picking season they are the place to go!

Top 3 items our kids enjoyed

  1. The Air Jumper Pillow, they could have been on that thing all day.
  2. Zipline. Seriously, who doesn’t love a good zip line 🙂
  3. Petting zoo. It was so fun watching them look for bunnies, say hi to chickens and watch the goats and kids.

Next time your unsure of what to do, or want to plan a good play date with a friend. Head on over to Maan Farms Country Experience!

Feature Friends— Jarris Neufeld

I had the honour and privilege of having the first time on feather and mane history of sharing a feature friend that is a male! thats right folks, branching out, putting our big girl pants on and talking with Jarris was definitely a highlight of my 2017 blogging life.

Jarris and I know each other through my husband, but with the help of social media I feel like I never lost touch of what he was up to.

He has graciously shared what keeps him going and what his life lessons have been in the past few years. You do not want to stop reading! Also Did I mention we have a giveaway?!check this out.

What do you do to earn money to live?

I Work for VSSL, but I love building custom tables (find me on Instagram for more details)

What would you like to share on the blog?

When Carla shared these questions, I really wanted to share what its like to be an authentic parent during this transition into single parenthood.  It is interesting to say the least. Grace is needed, patience gets stretched constantly. But overall I want to constantly remind myself that I want to be present in my kids lives. I want to keep looking towards the end goal of being in an authentic relationship with my kids. Sometimes its hard to see that during the short term stressors, the long term is way more important!

What is your heartbeat, life giving moments?

The quiet moments with my kids. Bedtime is such a fun time, we can connect cause we are in such close proximity. We get to look back on the day together, and set the tone for the dreaming phase of the day.
Other days, the hectic morning drives are key. We get ready together, rush, sing in the car and embrace this stage of life together.

Something that you want to inspire others with

I want to share with you about “graceful exits”. This has been hitting me Huge lately, with even as small as changing jobs, relationships, daily tasks. Graceful exits are key to a lot of life situations. Something I try to remind myself when I am transitioning, maybe for example leaving a job, I am very excited for the next stage but I want to make sure I am being smart with how I am acting in my setting while exiting a situation. How I respond, how much I share, how I need to stay in the present even though whatever comes next might be thrilling.  You need to always finish well, be present, and make sure you are honouring those around you.

How do I move to the next phase of anything.

1. step back and take a broader perspective of what is old, present and new.
2. Being present in the moment. Currently where your at. Being able to be there. ie. Switching jobs, Finish strong, don’t be so caught up on what is happening next, what is happening next will still happen.
3. Patience… just patience.
4. BE HUMBLE! Keep your head down and keep working hard. Honour those who are staying.
5. TIMING- share with the right people. Be respectful of everyones feelings as much as possible.

Why did you say yes to being interviewed?

Its super fun, I like the community of Abbotsford and the connections. I am A Huge Connection guy! I love the connection of Human beings.

What other things are you passionate about?

I loveWater-skiing, cross fit, ( they are like a family to me!,) My goal is to be a part of Worlds in 2019

HOW TO ENTER OUR VSSL GIVEAWAY!

  1. like this post!

  2. you can also enter to win on our instagram and facebook page!

  3. Comment and maybe share what kind of outdoorsy things you like to do and how this would be helpful or just plain awesome to have!

Contest closes March 8th, and winner will be ANNOUNCE HERE! on March 9th.

WINNER IS BRANDIE BRADSHAW!!!!!

This contest is for EVERYONE.

Is It Worth The Calories?

Sometimes I catch myself mentally figuring out the calories I am eating and thinking about how much physical work that would be to burn it off( I know, sounds unhealthy). My healthy weight and lifestyle has been a struggle. I had two high risk pregnancies, and than with that I tried my HARDEST to lose weight the “healthy” way ( exercising and eating cleaner).  I finally, after much convincing and nudging I sought out help from a Naturopath. It has been a year, 70 lbs lost later. I know I should be super excited, AND I AM! believe me, I am almost what I was in high school.

So what am I sharing.

Now that I have spent the last 42 days in a low cal, hormone injection food restriction (I hate using the word diet). I am left with feeling super uneasy about carbs, constantly making sure I am not gaining weight for what I ate the day before, and nervous about what I should eat and when.

This has nothing to do with who I went to see, the naturopath has been amazing, supportive and so great with fielding my questions. I would see them on the regular if I had benefits for days. BUT unfortunately I need to figure some things out on my own.

What I am trying to be okay with right now.

  1. It’s okay to feel this way, I just need to learn what to do next without diverting back to bad eating habits
  2. I don’t need to snack while looking at a screen. I can not believe how hard it is to not do this! it is a habit I tried to break so many times. so I have tried my best to drink teas, or coffee or a fruit while watching or working.
  3. I need to find a more sustainable way to live. a healthy way to view food, exercise, and maybe realize that i am getting older and some food isn’t worth how it makes me feel in the long run.
  4. ALSO I love this post from Vancouver nutritionist CristinaFeatherandMane(50of108)

 

I am so thankful for this past year and what I have learned about myself, healthy habits, and what I am truly wanting in life. I want to be able to run with my kids, play in the park and go down slides without being too large (I did this today! so fun), and make sure my hormones, vitamins, and long term lifestyle changes that can make me the person I truly want to be. I don’t want to be a size 2, I want to be me.

 

have any tips for me? would love supportive, positive comments! and if you want to collaborate over a blog post with healthy resources in the area let me know!

 

— Carla

Change, you can’t hide from it

I feel like I am in a blur. Each day is full, needed, constantly deciding what trumps what. And through all of this I have had to make the hardest decisions of my life.

This past month I shared with my Church Family that I am resigning from my position as Youth Pastor. I am not going to lie, this has wrecked me. I have so many emotions and as a positive glass half full kind of thinker it has been ridiculously challenging to see through this. I love my youth, leaders, church, and have known for the longest time this was where I needed to be.

God has plans for your life, to prosper, not to harm, plans to give you a hope and a future. I really relying on what God has in store for me and I am so thankful for my faith in something greater than myself.

Brad and I are so thrilled to finally launch his small business (Onboard Coaching), and with that launch, comes scheduling conflicts, babysitters, deciding who has priority in certain situations, etc etc.

I am also so thrilled to of been a part of the church community, but i constantly am looking forward to seeing who will be blessed to have youth ministry at Bakerview as there next mission! I know God has big plans, and at this moment, this position would be an amazing job to have, participate in molding, vision casting and shaping the future of this beloved church.

I have so many things on my mind, and I wanted to get this out before more questions are asked, more emails, texts, gossip, whatever comes.  here are some of the FAQ and answers

  1. where will you be working next? are you going to be a SAHM?
    1. answer: I am currently looking for a job, part time, 20ish hours a week, close by with evenings free. so if you have any leads?!  I would love to be a stay at home mom, but we have finances, and new adventures i need to help support.
  2. do you want to work in ministry again?
    1. MORE THAN EVER! I love youth ministry, church ministry and still feel called into this field. At this moment, I need to give my husband space to grow, network and develop his business (6ish months?) and than i can maybe look into this avenue again
  3. Where will you attend church?
    1. I don’t know yet, we haven’t decided what our future plans are.
  4. are you moving?
    1. no, i love this question. I am not moving.
  5. what can we do to support you?
    1. We need grace, patience, all the fruits of the spirit. This is a huge decision time for us, so we are trying our best to walk the line of gracefully exiting and sharing our excitement with what is happening in Brads life. We would love support in just sharing well this news, being our friend, bringing a meal during this month while we both balance work life and work life haha.

Thank you for everything! this Feather and Mane community has been incredible. I love sharing life with all of you!

what is happening in your life?! i would love to hear from you

 

Carla Thiessen

GIVEAWAY

In honour of Jessica’s 10 year anniversary we will be doing a GIVEAWAY! Enter to win a free entry to our ladies night in. We have swag bags, food, drinkies, a modern calligraphy craft and a few other items! How to enter

1. Like, follow and tag a friend who would want to join you!

2. Go to our website and comment on a blog post or page for an extra entry

3. Extra entry could also be following and commenting in our Facebook page. .

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Must be able to attend event 🙂

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Keep it Simple

Minimalism. things my eyes are drawn towards…. Sometimes we just need to let our eyes explore beauty without consequence, inspiration in the brain.

What are you drawn towards? what colours? textures? themes?

 

Thank you Unsplash. you are the best.

 

— Carla

Ladies Night in with Feather & Mane

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Come join us for a Ladies Social Art night. Using the art of Modern Calligraphy, each lady will walk away with a beautiful piece of art and the beginner tools to pursue Modern Calligraphy on their own. Each participant will get a short lesson on the “rules” of modern calligraphy and how to use the tools given in class. Over delightful conversation, short mini lessons, and amazing food each lady will leave the evening with a framed piece of art as well as the desire to continue pursing Modern Calligraphy and the information on how to do so you can pay cash (if you know us personally or email featherandmane@gmail.com) or you can pay with pay pal on through here! limited seating available so act now before its full

MARCH 9th 7-9:30 PM in Abbotsford (details upon purchase of where event will take place)

when purchasing ticket please fill out all details so we can email you a confirmation 🙂

 

Sign up HERE!