Recently I have been obsessed with marriage. Not in a needy way, trying to get my husband to talk and think about our marriage; I have been fascinated with listening to and reading what God has to say about marriage. So, in the last month or so, I started searching the internet, reading books and watching and listening to sermons with the main topic of marriage. I am learning that I don’t think it is right for someone to switch churches because they are bored or they aren’t getting anything out of their church (you get what you put in). I do feel it is totally acceptable to listen to other pastors as well as gain wisdom from someone other than your lead pastor (I know, shocking). Here are two of the main tools I have found:
1. A one year marriage devotional book. If I LOVED the one my husband and I are reading, I would recommend it, but I don’t fully feel like it is good enough to promote. But, what I do promote is reading, everyday, something small about marriage. The nice part about our devotional is that it has a question at the end of every day that you ask your spouse. Although it is cheesy, we have had a really good conversation at least once a week. So it is worth it. Our promise is that we read our devotional before we can watch TV or eat dinner :). That is what helps us stay motivated in reading it.
2. The Village Church in Surrey has a great 7 week sermon series called “Radical Marriage”. It is so awesome! My husband came home one day when I started watching it, and we ended up watching all the sermons together (and yes they are almost 50 minutes long!). You can watch all of them, plus some bonus things on the website www.myvillagechurch.org under “Sermons”, then “Radical Marriage”. I highly recommend it. The pastor uses a lot of stats and talks about things you wouldn’t expect from a church.
With these two main things, I am getting “shovel fed” with information. It has been super nice to feel and see the results in trying to be intentional with my marriage, as well as seeing how God wants to use marriage to show us how much He loves us.
I hope these are helpful for you. If you have any questions, I would love to discuss this with you!